It’s natural to move away from vulnerability.
We often equate being vulnerable with being weak.
No one wants to feel or be perceived as weak.
The belief is being weak or perceived as weak means we are more likely to be hurt.
We have a natural instinct to do everything in our power to maintain a sense of safety, within ourselves and externally with things and people around us.
~We avoid big conversations. “I don’t want to rock the boat or upset someone.”
~We don’t follow our desires. “What if I fail?”
~We don’t speak up. “What if I’m rejected, judged, or dismissed?”
~We don’t share, or sometimes even acknowledge within ourselves, our dreams. “What if I’m not worthy of my dream?”
~We move through the world wearing masks (one of many, varying depending on circumstances). “What if she/he sees who I really am; what I really feel; what I really think; discovers what I’ve experienced?”
Avoiding all these experiences will help us feel safer. It may calm the nervous energy present when thinking about doing any of these things. It may even make us feel stronger or more empowered for escaping any of these outcomes or feeling vulnerable.
Continuing to do things you think keeps you safe also keeps you from experiencing the full expression of who you are. Which means you hide (even if subconsciously) parts of yourself… your thoughts, feelings, desires, struggle.
When you hide part of who you are, when fear keeps you from your full expression, you reinforce the beliefs and fears which lead to shame.
Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, while scary as hell, is the only path to releasing shame.
Choosing to be vulnerable… choosing to share, speak up, show up without the mask, is the embodiment of COURAGE.
Courage is on the opposite end of the spectrum of weakness.
Walking through vulnerability is the path to living the healthy, happy, and whole life you deserve. <3