So, finally, here it is…my first blog post. As many of you know this has been a while in the making. Like so many of you, I have allowed my fears to keep me from doing something I’ve wanted to do. Not only for myself (I’ve considered writing in a public way for several years) but also for the millions of survivors of sexual abuse, sexual assault, and domestic violence. Yes, there are millions of you in this country. Then, I suddenly realized that the purpose of this is not about being perfect……writing something that everyone will want to read and agree with, but to provide hope. Hope for the possibility of healing and a happier, healthier life.
“It’s never too late to be what you might have been” by George Eliot is a quote I have on my business cards, website, and anywhere else I can find to put it. I don’t remember the first time I saw it, but I do remember it resonating with me in a profound way. Immediately I thought about how relevant it is for survivors of abuse. No matter how difficult things in your life have been, the emotional difficulties, the problematic behaviors , unhealthy relationships, your age, it’s never too late to become the person you would have been had you not had the experiences you did. Personally, it was a little like an aha moment. This idea is true for everybody, no matter who you are or what your experiences have been. It really is never too late!
I have been incredibly fortunate to witness this in the work I do. I’ve had clients with varying experiences, at different ages, come to me with a wide range of difficulties. While it hasn’t always been easy, so many have been able to begin to see themselves for who they really are. To be able to believe in themselves and the possibility for something different, creating the opportunity for healthy relationships, joy and peace.
Are you finding yourself thinking that somehow you are different than the people I mentioned above? You’re right. We are all different. However, based on my experience, there are many more similarities. The most significant one being our ability to change, grow and heal. Wherever you fall on the continuum of issues or struggles, from a history of severe child abuse to struggling with a little anxiety, change is possible, it’s never too late.