If you didn’t take a moment to read the top of this page, please do so now. I’ll wait. ;)
Everything needed to heal is already within you.
Take a moment to breathe that in.
My role is to help you see, connect with, and believe in YOU. The truth of who you are. Not who you’ve (likely unconsciously) believed you are.
Healing isn’t about changing who you are. It’s a journey of revealing the TRUTH of who you’ve always been.
We are all wounded in some way. It takes courage to be willing to acknowledge where you might be wounded and do the work to heal.
The majority of our wounds happen in the context of a relationship (familial, partner, or other trusted person). Therefore, healing can only happen in the context of a healthy, healing relationship.
This is the path to healing and I’m here and honored to walk beside you as you navigate this journey.
There are several ways we might journey together, both free and fee based.
Sister, open your heart, fling your hopes high and set your dreams aloft. I am here to hold your hand.” ~ Maya Angelou
Healing from sexual abuse isn’t easy, but it’s necessary for our freedom.
And you, dear Sister, deserve to be free!
I know the decision to start or continue your healing journey isn’t an easy one. There are so many
thoughts excuses to keep you from moving forward…
~I should move on from the past, not dwell on it.
~I should be strong enough to change, feel better, get over it on my own.
~maybe even worse than the last one - I don’t need anyone. Needing help is weak.
~S/he will judge me, think I’m a bad person, or worse, feel pity for me.
~I got help before and it didn’t work.
~It will take too long.
~It will be too painful.
~I don’t have time to commit to it.
~I can’t afford it.
Any of these sound familiar?
With the exception of affordability, all of these excuses are just that. And truthfully, even that is typically an excuse. more on that in a moment
All of these other beliefs are fear speaking. Fear of feeling, judgement, pain, betrayal, disappointment…failure. I get it. I’ve been there.
Time for a little tough love. This truly does come from a place of love...of knowing you deserve more than you have allowed yourself to receive. I care too much and believe too strongly to allow you to continue to make excuses that keep you from living in freedom.
The process of healing is far less painful than the pain and betrayal you’ve already experienced. Really. Think about it for a moment and hear the next part with an open heart for the little girl inside you.
Developmentally you were incapable of understanding what was happening (which is why we blame ourselves). You may have been threatened. You may have experienced physical pain. You felt completely alone. There was no one to save you. Those responsible for your safety let you down…and quite possibly, were the ones hurting you.
Now, you are an adult. You get to make choices in your life. You are no longer trapped in a situation you have no control over. You have the developmental capacity to create new, healthy ways of coping.
Check out this video for more on this and how to visualize your journey in a way that feels possible.
I know it’s not as simple as it may seem I am making it. It is still the truth. However, you can not do it on your own. No one can.
You were wounded within the context of a relationship. Healing can only happen in the context of a healthy, healing relationship.
Okay, back to not being able to afford it. For many people this is a reality. I was one of those people. However, I know for many others, it has more to do with not feeling deserving of the financial resources.
Think about the money you spend on various things over the course of a month…eating out; daily Starbucks run; gym membership you may or may not use; haircare; cosmetics; designer shoes, handbags, & clothes; or maybe even the shopping or other addiction you use to numb. Or maybe you spend your money on these kinds of things for other people.
We do these things, in part, to feel good about ourselves. In the words of Alanis Morissette, a little ironic, don’t you think?
If you’re ready to fly, I’d love to set up a complimentary Exploration Call to talk about taking this journey together.