*(The following is a brief summary of the video. The video is much more detailed)
As a client, you are allowed to share just about anything with your therapist. And at the same time, you are also free to ask whatever it is that you would like to ask.
It is a wonderful way to show you care and would love to connect with your therapist in a deeper sense. However, there is a chance that your therapist will not or is unable to respond to your question for some reason.
It’s natural to wonder about your therapist, whether you want to know more about their experience, background, personal story, their opinion, or simply how they are doing. But, you might think asking a personal question, or possibly any question, may cross a boundary.
Your questions are valid and likely relevant to the healing process.
But, that does not mean that your therapist will feel comfortable answering them. This may be for personal or professional reasons.
However, that does not make you wrong for wondering or wanting to know.
I always tell my clients they are welcome to ask anything. But, if there are questions that I do not feel prepared to answer or maybe I think are not necessarily beneficial to the healing process, I may choose not to answer them.
Again, this doesn’t mean that asking questions is wrong.
Some therapists believe that they can help their clients better if their clients only know as little about them as possible and other therapists will not answer directly, but they will explore your reason for asking a certain question.
Again, whether your therapist chooses to answer your question or not, it has nothing to do with you being wrong in asking.
Just keep in mind that your time with us is meant to be about you and if we don't answer a question, it is likely because we want to keep the attention where it belongs, with you.